Category Archives: Blog

Signs You’re Living Your Purpose

Someone once said that there are two truly important days in our life: the day we are born and the day we discover what we were born for.  That “what we were born for” could also be described as our purpose in this life. It’s something a great many people search for over a span of some years… even decades… and some will tell you they’ve never figured out what their purpose is. I’d like to make a few observations about how to discover your purpose and how to know you’re living it, even if you weren’t even aware you’d discovered it. Continue reading

Defining & Recognizing Strength

When we hear someone say, “He’s a strong person,” or “She has great inner strength,” it can mean different things to each of us. The word “strong” has a wide variety of definitions available for it, but the one(s) I want to concentrate on here are those relating to strength of character; strength of spirit. Hands down the largest message I want to impart in this piece is that just because someone appears to be strong… behaves in a manner that expresses a greater inner strength… is constantly helping others, DOES NOT mean that they aren’t fighting their own battles. Continue reading

Differentiating True Wisdom from Social Wisdom

Here we are in the early years of the 21st century. It’s a setting saturated with social media. Some of those outlets I can think of off the top of my head are Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, LinkedIn and more. The existence of these social outlets has allowed for people to become quite popular for no other reason than they say or do something that a large assortment of preteen adolescent people laugh at or find entertaining. They post a picture, tweet or video that goes viral and become an “internet sensation” overnight. What bothers me about this is… what happens when this popularity gives them a false sense of wisdom? Continue reading

Creating A Contemporary Warrior

Creating A Contemporary Warrior, Part One

Being armed does not a warrior make. Being willing to fight does not a warrior make.

Warrior: 1) a person engaged or experienced in warfare; soldier. 2) a person who shows or has shown great vigor, courage, or aggressiveness. Continue reading

The Challenges & Realities of Dreams

In the course of several conversations I’ve had a number of people ask me if I ever remember my dreams. Many of those I was talking to apparently don’t. My answer is: I didn’t used to but I wanted to so I studied the topic and found that, allegedly, I could train my brain to remember my dreams. I followed the described process and… viola… I remember an awful lot of my dreams. The danger for those folks is that once you get me talking about my dreams you also get some related… um… odd philosophies or beliefs out of me. Continue reading

Ancient Voices & Advice Expanded On

Awhile back I received an email. Each of the below statements was contained in the email with a few words expounding on the meaning. I’m being arrogant enough in this article to provide my own thoughts on each of these statements. I appreciate all intelligent comments, even if they disagree with something I’ve said. Please keep that in mind. Let’s go…  Continue reading

Touching Another’s Soul

A long time ago a friend of mine told me that psychologists are just overpaid bartenders who don’t serve you drinks. While that’s an oversimplification of both professions, if you stop and think about it there’s some truth to the outlook. A great many people with problems talk to their bartender… and the more they drink the looser their tongue gets so their honesty gets more pure. I’d be willing to bet that many bartenders hear more problems from people than any average psychologist. Continue reading

Live in the Moment

From the Cigar Lounge Wisdom collection (coming soon)

For much of my life I lived under a mistaken belief based on something I had been taught by my adopted mother and then reinforced by many a sergeant in the Army. That mistaken belief was this: That if I was relaxing I was accomplishing nothing; I was wasting time. Since time is limited – each of us only has so much and we never know what that allotment is – wasting time was totally unacceptable. It would earn me my mother’s wrath and the sergeants would always be able to “help me” find something to do. Continue reading

Measuring the Value of the Human Soul

Every now and then I get involved in some interesting discussions with friends at the local cigar bar. Last evening (as I type this) I got involved in a discussion about the human soul, the value of it, where it originates, where it goes after we die and so on. As you can imagine, everyone has their own ideas and beliefs and the best part about the discussion held last evening was that no one involved felt their belief was the ONLY correct one. Everyone involved was open to thinking about the ideas of others and seeking new answers; answers that might make sense than whatever the current belief happened to be. Continue reading

Spirituality or Intuition? BOTH

Dick Marcinko, in his book called “Rogue Warrior” describes an incident where he was on a combat patrol and for an unknown reason he dropped to the ground just as enemy fire opened up on his position. As he describes the experience it’s very clear that he was not at the time, and to the date of that writing, still not aware of why he dropped at that moment. But doing so saved his life.  Continue reading