Tag Archives: communication

Different Goals Mean Different Actions

It occurred to me this morning as I was working through various social media feeds that there were some folks who were all taking the same actions to work toward different goals. While it’s vital to understand that everyone has different goals, or at least different definitions of what a particular goal is, it’s perhaps more important to understand, and integrate into your planning and process, that your end goal determines what your actions should be. Further, as you evolve through the process of striving toward your goal, your skill sets will change, as will your knowledge base, and if you don’t make adjustments as you go, then eventually you stagnate, lose faith, lose motivation or simply don’t work as efficiently.  Let’s take a look at fitness as an example. Continue reading

Understanding the Trauma of Trivia

One of the most important parts of communication is understanding or at least attempting to see and understand the point of view of the person you are interacting with. The ability to do this makes the difference between taking everything literally or taking things as they are potentially meant. The same statement can have a variety of meanings but only one intended – and that one depends on YOU understanding the intentions of the person making the statement. To prevent misunderstandings and to help us minimize the times we negatively impact someone’s day, it’s imperative that we remember this one thing: what is trivial to us, can be traumatic to another. Let’s take a look at an example of how one statement can mean different things, and work on from there. Continue reading

The Power of An Aware And Active Mind

How many times have you been out in public some place – it could be the mall, a city street, a restaurant – and you see those folks who are so busy looking at their cell phones that they are completely oblivious to what’s going on around them?  How many times have you seen someone walking along and you can tell they’re not really there? That mentally they are somewhere else; they are “day dreaming?”  How many times have you caught yourself doing the same? All too often we disconnect from the real world in ways that lull our mind into a sleep-like state; at least where our awareness is concerned.  In doing so, we cost ourselves the potential experience of seeing beauty or blessings. Continue reading

Windows to the Soul

The eyes are the window to the soul.” A quote attributed to a great many people and we’ll never know who really said it first. But if the eyes are the window to the soul, then OUR eyes – the eyes we see others’ with – are a reflection of our perceptions. If that’s true, then what we see in the eyes of others says as much about our soul as it does of the person we’re seeing. That seems almost like circular reasoning, doesn’t it?  It is… kind of.  But it’s also true. Our character… our personality… our values and beliefs are revealed in how we perceive others and how we act on that perception; how we react to them. Continue reading

Communication, Motivation & Initiative

In every kind of relationship: personal, work, friends, whatever – in EVERY kind of relationship there are requirements of both parties involved if the relationship is going to be successful.  No relationship can be forever carried by one half; both have to participate.  The three things that are required are communication, motivation and initiative.  Let’s take a look at all three and see how they can have a positive impact on any relationship, and how lacking any one can cause serious problems in a given relationship. Continue reading

Sometimes No Decision is “No”

Have you ever asked someone a question and had them answer, “I don’t know,”?  Of course you have, and sometimes that the correct answer.  If you ask them a question regarding a piece of knowledge or information that they don’t possess, then the correct answer for them to give you is, “I don’t know.”  However, if the question is about a piece of personal information such as a preference in where to eat dinner and they answer, “I don’t know,” then it can get a bit frustrating.  What I’ve found to be even worse is when I get no answer at all. Continue reading

The True Value of Communication

It’s almost a stereotypical response.  When asked, “What’s most important in a relationship?” one of the most common answers you’ll ever hear is, “Communication.”  Of course, that’s just one word and not the whole answer.  “Open, honest, interactive communication,” is more complete.  For those who think about it and comprehend it, the implications of the three added words, “open, honest, interactive,” can be slightly intimidating and one can’t help but wonder if the fear of them and all they can bring is actually what occasionally inhibits good OPEN, HONEST and INTERACTIVE communication.  Let’s look at what that can mean. Continue reading