Tag Archives: critique

Coaching, Mentoring & Criticizing

Just this morning (as I type this) I enjoyed a quick back-and-forth conversation on social media and then via email with a man I consider of reasonable wisdom and maturity. He is a hard worker, husband, father and motivated employee of the same company I work for. He has a quick wit and a good sense of humor. The conversation we shared reminded me of the difference between being critical and being a mentor. The one thing that stands out most in my mind is that a mentor (or coach) has to be critical; he has to be capable of evaluation and judgment as part of his skill set, but he also has to be able to communicate what he sees as deficiencies in a way that offers solutions and recommendations for improvement. That add-on to the critical skill set is the difference between being someone who is negative and just complains and someone who offers a solution to an observed problem. Continue reading

Don’t Contaminate Your House

Across the span of the past few decades of my life I’ve heard a great many analogies that compare something to “my house.”  The most common ones have been federal financing (compared to a home budget to make it easier to understand), the nation (discussing illegal immigration) and others like that.  Recently I saw a motivational posting online that made me stop and think about MY MIND as my house.  The post is shared with this entry: When you allow the wrong people in your house, stuff will come up missing like: Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Faith… (Yes, people steal these things). Continue reading

Would You Be Nothing?

I know a few people who have a difficult time handling the criticism of others. When I talk with them, I try to encourage them to understand the difference between criticism and critique.  One, criticism, is nothing more than verbal judgment with no suggestion on how to improve.  The other, critique, is feedback on something with recommendations on how to make it better.  Yes, there are those people who can’t handle either one well.  They take either one as a sign of their failure.  There are several reasons why people shouldn’t do that: take criticism or critique as a sign of failure. Let’s talk about them and why, no matter what kind of feedback you get, you should view it all as a sign of some attempt at positive action on your part. Continue reading