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Don’t Let Your Past Shackle You

In the contemporary world there seem to be a host of beliefs, accepted as unavoidable fact, based on assumptions about the inevitable results of past events. The examples I would give are 1) Every combat veteran will have or does have PTSD and 2) If you have a family history of clinical depression then it’s inevitable that you have or will have it too.  Such beliefs… assumptions really… are not only far from accurate but, if believed, can be unnecessarily and avoidably debilitating. Let me explain. Continue reading

The Past’s Impact On Your Future

Have you ever had one of those conversations wherein someone tells you that you shouldn’t have done something?  I used to have such conversations all the time with my dad.  He was the absolute best at reminding me of all the bad decisions I’d made.  He liked to tell me how different my life would be if I’d just made that OTHER choice.  What neither of us ever realized at the time was that the decisions were cumulative.  Each decision made is like a fork in the road: if you choose to take the path on the right, then you get more decisions / forks down that path. If you take the left then the same thing happens.  What most of us imagine is a future where the paths never intersect and actually the end points get farther and farther apart.  But what if the cumulative effect is a juncture of the paths? Continue reading

Will vs. Won’t; Can vs. Can’t

One of the things I’ve come to realize is that, “Use it or lose it” is a true statement.  As I’ve studied aging (because we all do it, like it or not) I’ve learned that what we do (or don’t do) in our twenties and thirties can contribute to our physical strengths or frailties when we reach our later years… our seventies and eighties.  Strength, flexibility, bone density… it all gets affected by how we treat our bodies when we’re young.  Heart health is also greatly impacted by maintenance: how well you take care of and exercise your heart and cardiovascular system ALL YOUR LIFE.  When you realize that, then the saying, “I will do today what others won’t so that I can do tomorrow what others can’t,” is a literal truth. Continue reading