Or not private enough?
“Don’t air your dirty laundry in public.” It’s an old and wise saying. When there are problems at home, at work, at school, in a friendship, whatever – it’s not usually a good idea to just share those problems willy-nilly with anyone who will stand still long enough to listen. While that’s true, the lesson is all too often misapplied. It doesn’t mean you should NEVER talk to anyone about those things; it means you should be selective. Here’s what I mean. Continue reading
It occurred to me this morning as I was working through various social media feeds that there were some folks who were all taking the same actions to work toward different goals. While it’s vital to understand that everyone has different goals, or at least different definitions of what a particular goal is, it’s perhaps more important to understand, and integrate into your planning and process, that your end goal determines what your actions should be. Further, as you evolve through the process of striving toward your goal, your skill sets will change, as will your knowledge base, and if you don’t make adjustments as you go, then eventually you stagnate, lose faith, lose motivation or simply don’t work as efficiently. Let’s take a look at fitness as an example. Continue reading
I know a few people who have a difficult time handling the criticism of others. When I talk with them, I try to encourage them to understand the difference between criticism and critique. One, criticism, is nothing more than verbal judgment with no suggestion on how to improve. The other, critique, is feedback on something with recommendations on how to make it better. Yes, there are those people who can’t handle either one well. They take either one as a sign of their failure. There are several reasons why people shouldn’t do that: take criticism or critique as a sign of failure. Let’s talk about them and why, no matter what kind of feedback you get, you should view it all as a sign of some attempt at positive action on your part. Continue reading