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Your Plan versus Their Plan

While I’m going to use examples from my childhood and that of my children, this article does not apply only to parents and children. It applies to anyone who would see you do something different because of what they think is best for you. The honest reality is that sometimes their plan is better but far less appealing. Sometimes your plan is best and they simply don’t know any better until you show them. Sometimes either plan could work just as well but the more successful one will ultimately prove to be the one you believe in the strongest. Let me explain… Continue reading

The Power of An Aware And Active Mind

How many times have you been out in public some place – it could be the mall, a city street, a restaurant – and you see those folks who are so busy looking at their cell phones that they are completely oblivious to what’s going on around them?  How many times have you seen someone walking along and you can tell they’re not really there? That mentally they are somewhere else; they are “day dreaming?”  How many times have you caught yourself doing the same? All too often we disconnect from the real world in ways that lull our mind into a sleep-like state; at least where our awareness is concerned.  In doing so, we cost ourselves the potential experience of seeing beauty or blessings. Continue reading

Only YOU Are Responsible for your Happiness

That Dalai Lama – smart guy.  His statement, as quoted in this meme, is absolutely correct.  It’s also something that far too many people either completely ignore, never learned, or forget any time they need an easy excuse for something wrong in their life.  Let’s talk about this a little bit and see just how harmful it can be if you fail to accept responsibility for your own happiness. Continue reading

How Do YOU Measure Success?

Just recently I had a man – a friend from my youth – post on Facebook about how I’d been an inspiration to him.  Allow me to quote (and no, this isn’t just for the purposes of feeding my ego): “I would like to publicly acknowledge a man I consider a friend, a brother although I haven’t seen him in 30+ years. Frank Borelli has truly been a blessing and an inspiration to me through messages and posts on facebook, either directly or indirectly. Frank, over the years you’ve awaken the “never quit” attitude in me. Over the last 3 months I’m down 60 lbs., blood sugars are daily in normal ranges, blood pressure in down and getting better, and daily I find myself making better choices. The first 50 had its bumps and bruises but I’m still here. Can’t wait to see what the next 50 will bring. Thank you, my friend, my brother, for your wit and wisdom.Continue reading

The Negativity of Others Is A Strength For Me!

All of us have experienced, at some point in our lives, those people who try to tell us what we can’t do; why what we want to do is silly; how something we want to do is a waste of time; that a dream we hold dear is unattainable. Sometimes those people are mere acquaintances and it’s easy not to take their opinions or statements seriously; it’s easy to dismiss them. Sometimes, though, those people are friends and family – people who are supposed to care about us, support us, and offer us encouragement to pursue our dreams and desires. When the negativity comes from them, it’s hard to set it aside. Continue reading

Will vs. Won’t; Can vs. Can’t

One of the things I’ve come to realize is that, “Use it or lose it” is a true statement.  As I’ve studied aging (because we all do it, like it or not) I’ve learned that what we do (or don’t do) in our twenties and thirties can contribute to our physical strengths or frailties when we reach our later years… our seventies and eighties.  Strength, flexibility, bone density… it all gets affected by how we treat our bodies when we’re young.  Heart health is also greatly impacted by maintenance: how well you take care of and exercise your heart and cardiovascular system ALL YOUR LIFE.  When you realize that, then the saying, “I will do today what others won’t so that I can do tomorrow what others can’t,” is a literal truth. Continue reading