While I’m going to use examples from my childhood and that of my children, this article does not apply only to parents and children. It applies to anyone who would see you do something different because of what they think is best for you. The honest reality is that sometimes their plan is better but far less appealing. Sometimes your plan is best and they simply don’t know any better until you show them. Sometimes either plan could work just as well but the more successful one will ultimately prove to be the one you believe in the strongest. Let me explain… Continue reading
There’s an old joke about how some people are so stupid they would bang on their hand with a hammer just so they could enjoy how good it feels to stop. While none of us can imagine why anyone would voluntarily hurt themselves just so they could enjoy it when they stop, the “joke” does illustrate the process of experiencing a negative event and then having a deeper appreciation for the positive event that immediately follows. That’s the topic of this entry: the necessity of experiencing some “bad” things so that you can more deeply appreciate the “good” things… and how eventually you can learn to appreciate the “bad” things… and then they’re not so bad anymore. Continue reading
Fork: an instrument having two or more prongs or tines, for holding, lifting, etc., as an implement for handling food of any of various agricultural tools. The point or part at which a thing, as a river or a road, divides into branches.
All of us have heard, and used, the term, “a fork in the road.” We use it to give directions. At the fork in the road, stay to your right. The common usage of this term quite often leads to the impression that a fork in the road has only TWO choices: left fork or right fork. But that’s not the case and when we think about the path of our lives, it is imperative that we not limit our thinking in such a way. Continue reading
Country music star Brad Paisley wrote a song called, “A Letter To Me,” and the basic idea of the song was… if he could write a letter to himself; write it now but somehow send it back to his teenage self, what would he say? In the song he takes the opportunity to give his younger self a few valuable tidbits of advice. Don’t argue with dad. Fill the tank before one particular date. Wait, never mind. That date turned out “pretty cool.” The lyrics, when I heard them today, made me wonder, what would I put in a letter to my younger self? Continue reading
Have you ever had one of those conversations wherein someone tells you that you shouldn’t have done something? I used to have such conversations all the time with my dad. He was the absolute best at reminding me of all the bad decisions I’d made. He liked to tell me how different my life would be if I’d just made that OTHER choice. What neither of us ever realized at the time was that the decisions were cumulative. Each decision made is like a fork in the road: if you choose to take the path on the right, then you get more decisions / forks down that path. If you take the left then the same thing happens. What most of us imagine is a future where the paths never intersect and actually the end points get farther and farther apart. But what if the cumulative effect is a juncture of the paths? Continue reading