Tag Archives: value

What Do We Learn From Autumn and Trees?

The glory days of spring and summer have passed. The days are shorter, the nights are longer, the fires are warm and blankets are good. Snuggling occurs far more often. For all that, many people will tell you “spring” if you ask them what their favorite season is. They’ll cite the rebirth, the returning greenery, the warmer temperatures – so many “new” things. I far prefer fall to spring, mostly because I’m out a fan of pollen, but I also think there are a lot of valuable life’s lessons we can learn from the season. Continue reading

Friends – Casual and Others

Words have meaning. In a perfect world, the same word would have the same meaning to everyone. That alone would reduce the amount of miscommunication and misunderstandings that occur. We don’t live in a perfect world though, and those misthings occur. Just recently there was a conversation held, that was unfortunately (or fortunately?) overhead, and had to be shared for the lesson that was available. The biggest misunderstanding that existed in the conversation was that the two people involved had different outlooks on what the word “friend” means. Continue reading

Who Defines You?

“What follows ‘I am’ is far more important than what follows ‘You are’.”  I put that quote up on Facebook a while back and got a LOT of traction with it. It seems so simple a concept – what you think and say about yourself matters more than what others think and say about you. Right? There shouldn’t be any argument about that. But in reality, we spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about how others perceive us; what they think of us; how they view us; what our reputation is and so on. I’m as guilty as the rest. And then something will happen, or I’ll ready something or hear something… and it’ll help to ground me. It will remind me: what I think of me is more important than what someone else thinks of me. Continue reading

Measuring Life

This is something we all know, but some of us need a reminder about every now and then. You don’t measure your life by how long it is (although that’s no reason to desire less than a long life); you measure it by how much you’ve lived in the time span you’re given. Since none of us knows exactly how much we’re given, it behooves us to live as much as possible, as energetically as possible, with the proper focus on what’s of actual value in our lives… EVERY DAY. Continue reading

What Holds True Value?

Inspired by Michelle Johnson-Brown, From the Cigar Lounge Wisdom series

It was a mid-July evening and, as I have for many an evening, I sat at the local cigar bar and enjoyed the company of some friends. One young lady and I had previously enjoyed a contemplative conversation about the human spirit and everything that goes on with it. Last night we had a very brief but impactful conversation about what is of true value. Of course, “money” (I’ll explain the quotes in a minute) came up and, as a side effect of that, time. Continue reading

Signs You’re Living Your Purpose

Someone once said that there are two truly important days in our life: the day we are born and the day we discover what we were born for.  That “what we were born for” could also be described as our purpose in this life. It’s something a great many people search for over a span of some years… even decades… and some will tell you they’ve never figured out what their purpose is. I’d like to make a few observations about how to discover your purpose and how to know you’re living it, even if you weren’t even aware you’d discovered it. Continue reading

Differentiating True Wisdom from Social Wisdom

Here we are in the early years of the 21st century. It’s a setting saturated with social media. Some of those outlets I can think of off the top of my head are Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, LinkedIn and more. The existence of these social outlets has allowed for people to become quite popular for no other reason than they say or do something that a large assortment of preteen adolescent people laugh at or find entertaining. They post a picture, tweet or video that goes viral and become an “internet sensation” overnight. What bothers me about this is… what happens when this popularity gives them a false sense of wisdom? Continue reading

Measuring the Value of the Human Soul

Every now and then I get involved in some interesting discussions with friends at the local cigar bar. Last evening (as I type this) I got involved in a discussion about the human soul, the value of it, where it originates, where it goes after we die and so on. As you can imagine, everyone has their own ideas and beliefs and the best part about the discussion held last evening was that no one involved felt their belief was the ONLY correct one. Everyone involved was open to thinking about the ideas of others and seeking new answers; answers that might make sense than whatever the current belief happened to be. Continue reading

The Courage of Your Convictions

“I’m a man of my convictions; call me wrong; call me right.” – Toby Keith

Conviction: a fixed or firm belief. (www.dictionary.com)

Integrity: adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

Ethical: pertaining to or dealing with morals or the principles of morality; pertaining to right and wrong in conduct. Continue reading

Thanksgiving 2016

Although we don’t tend to think about it much, our lives are full of traditions. We inherit them from our families without thinking about it. We learn them as young children and then either look forward to them as we get older or dread them; one or the other. How we celebrate holidays is usually traditional, although the “traditional” may vary from one family to the next. Continue reading