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Brightest Lights During The Darkest Times

NOTE: This blog isn’t being written, or even approached, with journalistic structure or professionalism in mind. The topic is suicide: awareness and (hopefully) avoidance or reduction. The statistics and data listed are gleaned from various sources and listed at the end. The rest of this is the result of input and comment from family, friends and coworkers along with a huge subjective filter that runs from my brain to my fingers – with a detour through my heart. It’s my hope – throughout the process of researching, gathering comments, collating and writing all of this – that it has some positive impact on the readers. I hate to think it, but some of the readers may be in a dark place and contemplating suicide to resolve their problem(s). Other readers may know someone who is thinking about committing suicide (statistically speaking, that’s almost guaranteed).  HOPEFULLY, some of this… any part of it, will help.  Last item: Some of this, because so much of it is just my articulated outlook, might aggravate you, anger you or insult you. None of that is my intent and I beg you to continue reading past anything that you don’t like to see if I suitably explain myself. Continue reading

Are You a Warrior? BE a Warrior

From dictionary.com, the definition of “Warrior:” A person engaged or experienced in warfare; soldier. A person who shows or has shown great vigor, courage, or aggressiveness, as in politics or athletics. I would submit to you that all too often in today’s society the term “warrior” is too narrowly applied to a profession and inadequately used to describe individual outlook. However, the value of seeing one’s self as a warrior and acting accordingly is grossly undervalued and that’s what I wanted to discuss today. Continue reading

Holiday Blues? Find the Silver Lining

Every year around this time, as all law enforcement professionals know, suicides and suicide attempts seem to climb in number.  The stress of the season, for whatever reason, seems to outweigh the happiness and good cheer that (seemingly) all of us are trying to spread.  The challenge is that not ALL of us really are trying to spread good cheer.  Some people are merely trying to make a few more dollars before the fiscal year ends. Some people are just trying to get a few more sales made before the end of year. Some people are just trying to leverage the season to fatten their purses/wallets and they don’t think about anything else. Now, it’s true that such folks can really only prey on those who haven’t set a budget or haven’t made up their mind what they want to buy, etc. Continue reading

The Difference Between Stopping & Pausing

I have been actively writing short stories since I was in the 7th grade.  I learned to type in the 9th grade and, thanks to lots of years of playing the piano before that, I could type FAST (still can).  I have the benefit of a good private high school education plus some.  What it took me most of my adult life to learn was the value of NOT immediately saying or typing about something that made me angry.  Venting while angry – whether you do it verbally (bad) or in writing (worse) – is NOT a good thing.  When you find yourself preparing to do that, THEN is when you need to practice the pause. Continue reading

Fear Is A Choice

…and therefore unnecessary.  I didn’t used to believe that.  You’d think that being a police officer for virtually all of my adult life, I’d understand that fear was something I could choose or not.  I didn’t realize that until after I’d retired (the first time) and I still have to thank a Will Smith movie (After Earth) for the realization. What I did all throughout my career was simply ignore the fear, or overcome the fear, to perform my duties as my oath and circumstances required.  It wasn’t until I heard these words in After Earth that I realized: fear doesn’t HAVE to exist; we choose it. Continue reading

Make A Resolution To Give Up

Every year people make resolutions to do something or some things that they believe will somehow alter their life for the better.  They resolve to quit smoking. They resolve to lose weight. They resolve to get in shape. They resolve to cut back on eating fatty foods. They resolve to drink less alcohol. They resolve to find a different job that they’ll like more than the one they have.  Resolve.. resolve… resolve.  As I thought about it, reviewing a few motivational snipits I had come across, it occurred to me that maybe what some folks need to do is make just one resolution: the resolution to GIVE UP.  “Give up what?” you ask.  Let me share… Continue reading

Don’t Have Regrets; Take Chances!

Yesterday evening (as I type this) I had a conversation with my oldest son about choices we make in life and how they shape our future.  Of course, we can only guess and/or assume how our future will change when we’re making those choices.  In the future we can look back and see the results of our choices and decide whether or not we regret any of our decisions.  He is (currently) blessed, as am I, with the reality that our PRESENT – the current conditions and circumstances of our lives – are pretty darned good; and we’re smart enough to realize that if we traveled back and changed any decision or choice, we may well rob ourselves of something in our current day to day life.  That recognized, we also agreed that there are those times when we don’t do something we might want to do and our reason(s) for not doing it could include cost, time, fear, etc.  Those are the “regrets” this piece is about.

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The Difference Between…

Every day it’s inevitable: I talk with someone who, at some point during the conversation, says, “I wish…”  WHAT they wish for may be highly improbable.  “I wish I could win the lottery.”  “I wish I could go back in time and change blah blah blah.”  “I wish…”  But some of what they utter a wish for IS obtainable if only they would ACT to make their wish come true.  “I wish I could control my future.”  “I wish I was skinnier.”  “I wish I was built better.”  Hmmm…  I’m pretty sure you can make such wishes come true.

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The True Value of Communication

It’s almost a stereotypical response.  When asked, “What’s most important in a relationship?” one of the most common answers you’ll ever hear is, “Communication.”  Of course, that’s just one word and not the whole answer.  “Open, honest, interactive communication,” is more complete.  For those who think about it and comprehend it, the implications of the three added words, “open, honest, interactive,” can be slightly intimidating and one can’t help but wonder if the fear of them and all they can bring is actually what occasionally inhibits good OPEN, HONEST and INTERACTIVE communication.  Let’s look at what that can mean. Continue reading